Need help with a recent break up. Need to communicate to the ex to convince him that we can be happy again
I encourage you to do three things. 1. stop trying to convince him. For most of us humans, how this plays out is we are begging, pleading, and over pleasing in an effort to get them to come back. This wont work well. very often, it pushes them further away. 2. confidently share with him how much you care! you care about him, your relationship, and have a deep desire to see it work out. 3. Sincerely take responsibility for what you recognize as your part in what is not working in your relationship, and what you would be honestly willing to work on if he were to choose in to giving it another try. If you need help with any of this, reach out to me.
Need help to stop a cycle of belittlement and lack of mutual respect
Please refer to my reply your comment on bullying. Mutual respect takes place when both parties can personal refrain from taking their upsets out on each other, by developing and practicing better skills of working through conflict. I call this "Emotional Weightlifting," as the ability to do emotional push ups will be necessary. If you need more information on this, please schedule a Free Clarity Call and we can discuss it further.
Need help to stop a cycle of bullying
What drives a persons need to bully is actually feelings of personal inadequacy and shame that is then taken out on others in an effort to alleviate the pain, and feel just a bit better. However, as you may guess...the more I take my emotions out on others, the worse I feel about myself. So this becomes a self perpetuating cycle of abuse. To stop it, if you're "the person" doing the bullying, better outlets for alleviating YOUR pain, and effort to understand and work with your emotions will be required. If you're the person "being bullied"...you to struggle with feelings of inadequacy and shame, but just handle them differently. You shut down instead of get aggressive in an effort to feel a little bit better. Make it up its all your fault in your attempt to avoid conflict. You must learn to value yourself, and be willing to advocate for yourself as you take appropriate actions to keep yourself safe. Be mind full however, that in doing so, you don't become the bully.
Need help with a recent break up. Need to communicate to the ex to convince him that we can be happy again
I encourage you to do three things. 1. stop trying to convince him. For most of us humans, how this plays out is we are begging, pleading, and over pleasing in an effort to get them to come back. This wont work well. very often, it pushes them further away. 2. confidently share with him how much you care! you care about him, your relationship, and have a deep desire to see it work out. 3. Sincerely take responsibility for what you recognize as your part in what is not working in your relationship, and what you would be honestly willing to work on if he were to choose in to giving it another try. If you need help with any of this, reach out to me.
Need help to stop a cycle of belittlement and lack of mutual respect
Please refer to my reply your comment on bullying. Mutual respect takes place when both parties can personal refrain from taking their upsets out on each other, by developing and practicing better skills of working through conflict. I call this "Emotional Weightlifting," as the ability to do emotional push ups will be necessary. If you need more information on this, please schedule a Free Clarity Call and we can discuss it further.
Need help to stop a cycle of bullying
What drives a persons need to bully is actually feelings of personal inadequacy and shame that is then taken out on others in an effort to alleviate the pain, and feel just a bit better. However, as you may guess...the more I take my emotions out on others, the worse I feel about myself. So this becomes a self perpetuating cycle of abuse. To stop it, if you're "the person" doing the bullying, better outlets for alleviating YOUR pain, and effort to understand and work with your emotions will be required. If you're the person "being bullied"...you to struggle with feelings of inadequacy and shame, but just handle them differently. You shut down instead of get aggressive in an effort to feel a little bit better. Make it up its all your fault in your attempt to avoid conflict. You must learn to value yourself, and be willing to advocate for yourself as you take appropriate actions to keep yourself safe. Be mind full however, that in doing so, you don't become the bully.