I feel like my boyfriend is losing interest Ãn me how do i turn this around
My wife and I are divorced because I tried to save our marriage alone and did not have deep enough pockets to finish things and she was not on board with it. She is still not on board with it being saved and now we are divorced. I was and am committed to fixing the relationship but when the other party won't come around to it there is no way to fix it.
We used to be best friends and we have been dating for 7 years and we have been dealing with so many things. We have been unable to express our feelings to each other anymore.
My husband left, like really left like while I was sleeping hauled ass on me just when we were supposed to be picking up the peices again. Our marriage and our relationship has not been perfect and the last seven years have been really really hard on us internally and externally. Communication is gone trust is gone pain is full and overflowing. He is the love of my life but I also can't stand being around him most of the time. It seems like he only sees his feelings and yet claims I am guilty of the same . Our relationship crossed that line that no relationship should ever cross abuse, physical mental and emotional abuse, lies betrayal, and it has gone on for soooo long now it seems like all the good is now gone and all we ever see is bad and hurt, like we are always stuck in our worst moments our biggest regrets and it just keeps turning into fights and blameing and one uping, he feels like his feelings are ignored I feel the same but the way he left how he pulled me into a flash security to me only to force me to live my greatest fear. When is it so gone that it shouldn't be fixed?
I want to stop fighting how do I share my feelings with out it seeming like im attacking her
I would like to know how to communicate with my wife
My girlfriend and I got into a huge argument the night of Oct 7th, she left home and has been staying at her friends house since that not, I have been apologizing to her and to please come home, but she keeps saying she's done, I don't know what to do... I don't want to lose her and I love her, but I feel like I have already lost...
Dustin,
Unfortunately, we mere mortals can't force someone we love to be in relationship with us. I know this sucks! When someone says some version of I am done...or I just can do this anymore I want you to know they are not saying they don't love you...they are saying, I have run out of emotional gas, and must take care of myself now. I dont know what the future holds for the two of you, however I do know that if you beg, plead, etc...it will push her further away. Instead I encourage you to yes, let her know you you care about her..but then give her some space. You take that time to reflect and understand for yourself what worked in your relationship with her, and what didn't. There are always hidden jems you can use to improve your personal experience in relationships overall. If you need support with this...please reach out to me.
I want to know why my husband is refusing to make love to me. ,Why my husband don't hold me anymore, he keep tell me it old age
Hello Tammy,
Because you mentioned age... my first thought was hormones. unfortunately, main stream medicine does not seem to address nor treat the role of hormones in our bodies. I would encourage you to seek a hormone specialist who does compounding. As we age, its common for our hormones to become depleted, which will cause our libido to become a historic icon! lol. The other strong possibility could be a shutting down from lack of emotional connection, boredom or both. Schedule a clarity call, and lets explore this further.
He is going through his personal troubles and asked for space. Asking me to wait until he gets through it but there's no conversation or quality time. It's hard to be understanding when someone is keeping you in the dark and pushing you away. Is it okay to move on? Eventually I have to think about my happiness right?
Jovan,
Your biggest challenge is NO REGRETS....Its true, we humans don't wait around very well without some type of emotional connection to keep us in the game. Ask him for specifically what you need to wait and explore whether he is in a place to full-fill your requests or not. (this is not a threat, it needs to be a sincere ask) and then ask yourself two important questions...1. Do you "want" this relationship personally, just because you want it? and 2. Do you have it to give without falling apart yourself? Remember, the relationship with yourself is a lifetime contract.
I’ve left and he has left ! But we always end up together after 40 years.
Hi Lori,
After 40 years, its obvious the two of you are great comforts for each other when life get's tough. May I ask, what has caused your breakups? With a long history like this, there is much to understand from your relationship patterns.
What if they left and moved in with someone else 2 days later after 4 years
PK,
I am so sorry for the pain this must be causing you. its ok to through a fit about it, scream, cry...and then you must get back to living a life for yourself again. Make this a practice everyday if you need to. I know first hand how getting back to life after a breakup can be a challenge! If you need help and support with this, let's spend some time together. Remember, its ok for you to pursue happiness. You deserve it simply because your among the living!
I feel like my boyfriend is losing interest Ãn me how do i turn this around
My wife and I are divorced because I tried to save our marriage alone and did not have deep enough pockets to finish things and she was not on board with it. She is still not on board with it being saved and now we are divorced. I was and am committed to fixing the relationship but when the other party won't come around to it there is no way to fix it.
We used to be best friends and we have been dating for 7 years and we have been dealing with so many things. We have been unable to express our feelings to each other anymore.
My husband left, like really left like while I was sleeping hauled ass on me just when we were supposed to be picking up the peices again. Our marriage and our relationship has not been perfect and the last seven years have been really really hard on us internally and externally. Communication is gone trust is gone pain is full and overflowing. He is the love of my life but I also can't stand being around him most of the time. It seems like he only sees his feelings and yet claims I am guilty of the same . Our relationship crossed that line that no relationship should ever cross abuse, physical mental and emotional abuse, lies betrayal, and it has gone on for soooo long now it seems like all the good is now gone and all we ever see is bad and hurt, like we are always stuck in our worst moments our biggest regrets and it just keeps turning into fights and blameing and one uping, he feels like his feelings are ignored I feel the same but the way he left how he pulled me into a flash security to me only to force me to live my greatest fear. When is it so gone that it shouldn't be fixed?
I want to stop fighting how do I share my feelings with out it seeming like im attacking her
I would like to know how to communicate with my wife
My girlfriend and I got into a huge argument the night of Oct 7th, she left home and has been staying at her friends house since that not, I have been apologizing to her and to please come home, but she keeps saying she's done, I don't know what to do... I don't want to lose her and I love her, but I feel like I have already lost...
Dustin, Unfortunately, we mere mortals can't force someone we love to be in relationship with us. I know this sucks! When someone says some version of I am done...or I just can do this anymore I want you to know they are not saying they don't love you...they are saying, I have run out of emotional gas, and must take care of myself now. I dont know what the future holds for the two of you, however I do know that if you beg, plead, etc...it will push her further away. Instead I encourage you to yes, let her know you you care about her..but then give her some space. You take that time to reflect and understand for yourself what worked in your relationship with her, and what didn't. There are always hidden jems you can use to improve your personal experience in relationships overall. If you need support with this...please reach out to me.
I want to know why my husband is refusing to make love to me. ,Why my husband don't hold me anymore, he keep tell me it old age
Hello Tammy, Because you mentioned age... my first thought was hormones. unfortunately, main stream medicine does not seem to address nor treat the role of hormones in our bodies. I would encourage you to seek a hormone specialist who does compounding. As we age, its common for our hormones to become depleted, which will cause our libido to become a historic icon! lol. The other strong possibility could be a shutting down from lack of emotional connection, boredom or both. Schedule a clarity call, and lets explore this further.
He is going through his personal troubles and asked for space. Asking me to wait until he gets through it but there's no conversation or quality time. It's hard to be understanding when someone is keeping you in the dark and pushing you away. Is it okay to move on? Eventually I have to think about my happiness right?
Jovan, Your biggest challenge is NO REGRETS....Its true, we humans don't wait around very well without some type of emotional connection to keep us in the game. Ask him for specifically what you need to wait and explore whether he is in a place to full-fill your requests or not. (this is not a threat, it needs to be a sincere ask) and then ask yourself two important questions...1. Do you "want" this relationship personally, just because you want it? and 2. Do you have it to give without falling apart yourself? Remember, the relationship with yourself is a lifetime contract.
I’ve left and he has left ! But we always end up together after 40 years.
Hi Lori, After 40 years, its obvious the two of you are great comforts for each other when life get's tough. May I ask, what has caused your breakups? With a long history like this, there is much to understand from your relationship patterns.
What if they left and moved in with someone else 2 days later after 4 years
PK, I am so sorry for the pain this must be causing you. its ok to through a fit about it, scream, cry...and then you must get back to living a life for yourself again. Make this a practice everyday if you need to. I know first hand how getting back to life after a breakup can be a challenge! If you need help and support with this, let's spend some time together. Remember, its ok for you to pursue happiness. You deserve it simply because your among the living!