I would like to know how to communicate with my wife
My girlfriend and I got into a huge argument the night of Oct 7th, she left home and has been staying at her friends house since that not, I have been apologizing to her and to please come home, but she keeps saying she's done, I don't know what to do... I don't want to lose her and I love her, but I feel like I have already lost...
Dustin,
Unfortunately, we mere mortals can't force someone we love to be in relationship with us. I know this sucks! When someone says some version of I am done...or I just can do this anymore I want you to know they are not saying they don't love you...they are saying, I have run out of emotional gas, and must take care of myself now. I dont know what the future holds for the two of you, however I do know that if you beg, plead, etc...it will push her further away. Instead I encourage you to yes, let her know you you care about her..but then give her some space. You take that time to reflect and understand for yourself what worked in your relationship with her, and what didn't. There are always hidden jems you can use to improve your personal experience in relationships overall. If you need support with this...please reach out to me.
I want to know why my husband is refusing to make love to me. ,Why my husband don't hold me anymore, he keep tell me it old age
Hello Tammy,
Because you mentioned age... my first thought was hormones. unfortunately, main stream medicine does not seem to address nor treat the role of hormones in our bodies. I would encourage you to seek a hormone specialist who does compounding. As we age, its common for our hormones to become depleted, which will cause our libido to become a historic icon! lol. The other strong possibility could be a shutting down from lack of emotional connection, boredom or both. Schedule a clarity call, and lets explore this further.
He is going through his personal troubles and asked for space. Asking me to wait until he gets through it but there's no conversation or quality time. It's hard to be understanding when someone is keeping you in the dark and pushing you away. Is it okay to move on? Eventually I have to think about my happiness right?
Jovan,
Your biggest challenge is NO REGRETS....Its true, we humans don't wait around very well without some type of emotional connection to keep us in the game. Ask him for specifically what you need to wait and explore whether he is in a place to full-fill your requests or not. (this is not a threat, it needs to be a sincere ask) and then ask yourself two important questions...1. Do you "want" this relationship personally, just because you want it? and 2. Do you have it to give without falling apart yourself? Remember, the relationship with yourself is a lifetime contract.
I’ve left and he has left ! But we always end up together after 40 years.
Hi Lori,
After 40 years, its obvious the two of you are great comforts for each other when life get's tough. May I ask, what has caused your breakups? With a long history like this, there is much to understand from your relationship patterns.
What if they left and moved in with someone else 2 days later after 4 years
PK,
I am so sorry for the pain this must be causing you. its ok to through a fit about it, scream, cry...and then you must get back to living a life for yourself again. Make this a practice everyday if you need to. I know first hand how getting back to life after a breakup can be a challenge! If you need help and support with this, let's spend some time together. Remember, its ok for you to pursue happiness. You deserve it simply because your among the living!
My husband left me last year we got back together and now he's leaving again he's been talking to the same girl, he's moving her in I have to be out this weekend. Help we have been together 7 years married 5 years on the 21st of this month. I am so lost, our 3 year old sees me crying and ask if I'm okay 💔ðŸ˜
Hello Chelsea,
I so feel your broken heart! Please know this...broken hearts heal! They are resilient as long as we know how to nurture them. Please schedule a clarity call and let's get you healing. I promise the best days of your life are ahead of you!
My wife and I have been seperated for 7 months she filed for divorce. She says I left she kicked me out that's why she wants a divorce. I don't want nobody but her she is the one I'm supposed to die with she won't even talk to me
Hi John,
its time to reconnect with yourself, as this is where your sense of wellbeing and confidence is going to come from. Believing that you need your wife to be ok is going to dismantle you, and cause you to become emotionally stuck! please don't do this to yourself. If you need to learn how to do this for yourself...a Clarity Call would be a great next step for you.
How can he come back if he already with someone now
Tamiko,
If he is already with someone else, its important for you to "let go" of what once was...and begin to embrace what can be now! I strongly encourage you to not put the rest of your life on hold while you wait for him to come back. Unfortunately, this is a recipe for emotional breakdown. Pursue your very own personal happiness, as this will lead to love once again.
How will it work if she has already found someone? I have tried talking to her but all she is thinking about is getting with him again
I became depressed in 2020 after moving and breaking my leg. I turned to alcohol to deal with it and became a drunk for a year and a half. I have bee. Sober for the last 3 months but my wife has said she wants a divorce because she feels like she can't count on me. Please I don't want to loss her and need to show her I'm the man she fell in love with.
Matt,
Schedule a clarity call as soon as you can. This will allow us to uncover more of your situation privately and explore what is possible for you and your wife going forward.
I would like to know how to communicate with my wife
My girlfriend and I got into a huge argument the night of Oct 7th, she left home and has been staying at her friends house since that not, I have been apologizing to her and to please come home, but she keeps saying she's done, I don't know what to do... I don't want to lose her and I love her, but I feel like I have already lost...
Dustin, Unfortunately, we mere mortals can't force someone we love to be in relationship with us. I know this sucks! When someone says some version of I am done...or I just can do this anymore I want you to know they are not saying they don't love you...they are saying, I have run out of emotional gas, and must take care of myself now. I dont know what the future holds for the two of you, however I do know that if you beg, plead, etc...it will push her further away. Instead I encourage you to yes, let her know you you care about her..but then give her some space. You take that time to reflect and understand for yourself what worked in your relationship with her, and what didn't. There are always hidden jems you can use to improve your personal experience in relationships overall. If you need support with this...please reach out to me.
I want to know why my husband is refusing to make love to me. ,Why my husband don't hold me anymore, he keep tell me it old age
Hello Tammy, Because you mentioned age... my first thought was hormones. unfortunately, main stream medicine does not seem to address nor treat the role of hormones in our bodies. I would encourage you to seek a hormone specialist who does compounding. As we age, its common for our hormones to become depleted, which will cause our libido to become a historic icon! lol. The other strong possibility could be a shutting down from lack of emotional connection, boredom or both. Schedule a clarity call, and lets explore this further.
He is going through his personal troubles and asked for space. Asking me to wait until he gets through it but there's no conversation or quality time. It's hard to be understanding when someone is keeping you in the dark and pushing you away. Is it okay to move on? Eventually I have to think about my happiness right?
Jovan, Your biggest challenge is NO REGRETS....Its true, we humans don't wait around very well without some type of emotional connection to keep us in the game. Ask him for specifically what you need to wait and explore whether he is in a place to full-fill your requests or not. (this is not a threat, it needs to be a sincere ask) and then ask yourself two important questions...1. Do you "want" this relationship personally, just because you want it? and 2. Do you have it to give without falling apart yourself? Remember, the relationship with yourself is a lifetime contract.
I’ve left and he has left ! But we always end up together after 40 years.
Hi Lori, After 40 years, its obvious the two of you are great comforts for each other when life get's tough. May I ask, what has caused your breakups? With a long history like this, there is much to understand from your relationship patterns.
What if they left and moved in with someone else 2 days later after 4 years
PK, I am so sorry for the pain this must be causing you. its ok to through a fit about it, scream, cry...and then you must get back to living a life for yourself again. Make this a practice everyday if you need to. I know first hand how getting back to life after a breakup can be a challenge! If you need help and support with this, let's spend some time together. Remember, its ok for you to pursue happiness. You deserve it simply because your among the living!
My husband left me last year we got back together and now he's leaving again he's been talking to the same girl, he's moving her in I have to be out this weekend. Help we have been together 7 years married 5 years on the 21st of this month. I am so lost, our 3 year old sees me crying and ask if I'm okay 💔ðŸ˜
Hello Chelsea, I so feel your broken heart! Please know this...broken hearts heal! They are resilient as long as we know how to nurture them. Please schedule a clarity call and let's get you healing. I promise the best days of your life are ahead of you!
My wife and I have been seperated for 7 months she filed for divorce. She says I left she kicked me out that's why she wants a divorce. I don't want nobody but her she is the one I'm supposed to die with she won't even talk to me
Hi John, its time to reconnect with yourself, as this is where your sense of wellbeing and confidence is going to come from. Believing that you need your wife to be ok is going to dismantle you, and cause you to become emotionally stuck! please don't do this to yourself. If you need to learn how to do this for yourself...a Clarity Call would be a great next step for you.
How can he come back if he already with someone now
Tamiko, If he is already with someone else, its important for you to "let go" of what once was...and begin to embrace what can be now! I strongly encourage you to not put the rest of your life on hold while you wait for him to come back. Unfortunately, this is a recipe for emotional breakdown. Pursue your very own personal happiness, as this will lead to love once again.
How will it work if she has already found someone? I have tried talking to her but all she is thinking about is getting with him again
I became depressed in 2020 after moving and breaking my leg. I turned to alcohol to deal with it and became a drunk for a year and a half. I have bee. Sober for the last 3 months but my wife has said she wants a divorce because she feels like she can't count on me. Please I don't want to loss her and need to show her I'm the man she fell in love with.
Matt, Schedule a clarity call as soon as you can. This will allow us to uncover more of your situation privately and explore what is possible for you and your wife going forward.