I understand your desire to do this Bill. I also want you to know you can do this without her participation. Begin treating her now, the way you wish you would have, as well as others in your presence is a great way to begin.
My wife has checked out on me and doesn't want to try anymore
Hi Steve, this dose not mean she does not care about you...she has just run out of emotional gas by continuing to do all she knows how to do, without much progress.
I do not have any questions
Is it possible without my husband to participate
Hi Kim 🙂 Absolutey. It is very common for our clients to come to us where one partner participates before the other one joins in. Sometimes the other partner never joins in, but it is absolutely possible for one person to create change in a relationship.
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I want to fix this marriage you remember 23 years help me
How can I stop this divorce and my husband wants I don't want it I want to fix the
Well we had an affair while we were both married to other mates she divorced and my wife passed away she pushed away from me to spend time with her girlfriend we got back together after a brief period of time but she went through my stuff and left again and has never forgot or trusted me anymore this has been going on for 4 years finally moved out and blamed me for breaking her spirit we have spoken but no signs of getting her back but I need to work on me
Shawn, it sounds like you have been through a lot. Your knowing of working on yourself would be a great next best step for you. I encourage you to book an initial session here to get started. https://stacibartley.com/work-with-me/
Need help on my marriage. I recently moved out and my husband told me that it was over. He keep telling me different things like it’s over, he’s over me, he’s moving on to newer things and there’s nothing to work on. Then he’ll mix it up with we can be friends, we can be friends and see we’re it takes up, he’s not making any promises, he’s tired, he’s done, he still loves me, he still in love with me but he’s tired of dealing with me. I’m so lost and hurting so bad! I didn’t realize I were still in love with him until I left. Sometimes it feels like he’s enjoying me hurting and at disarray. He keeps telling me that’s how he felt when I left. He still shows that he cares but it feels manipulative in a way because he’ll come back with that’s what he went through alone!
Hi Annissa,
I can hear the pain in your comment and my heart truly goes out to you and your husband at this very difficult time. big hug! Its true, Emotional pain Sucks, however it is also a great teacher in helping us understand ourselves, our situation and our partners better. The reality is, we figure life and love out as we go, not before we get started, or get busy steering it in the direction we desire to go. It makes sense you would realize you are still in love with your husband after you moved out. I assure you, it was unlikely for you to realize this by maintaining the status quo of your relationship. I also encourage you to not take your husband's comments personally when he says..."now you understand what I was going through." There is relief for us as humans when we believe the way I was hurting can now be understood by another. Also, we all have our own progression through the pain and disappointments of love. Take it as validation that you are both hurting right now. There are many more things I desire to teach and share with you, however, it would take more than a simple reply to your comment. However, please let me close by saying there is hope here. I would suggest you explore if your husband would be willing to step into the experience of being friends. Friends who love and care about each other would be a really great place to come from when rebuilding your relationship once again. I encourage you to begin by setting aside the problems for a moment, and focus on getting together for an enjoyable activity, (hang out) and have a safe place and space to come home to. I also encourage you to get some help and support as you navigate this very difficult time. Schedule a call, and together let's truly explore your next best steps.
Need help with a recent break up. Need to communicate to the ex to convince him that we can be happy again
I encourage you to do three things. 1. stop trying to convince him. For most of us humans, how this plays out is we are begging, pleading, and over pleasing in an effort to get them to come back. This wont work well. very often, it pushes them further away. 2. confidently share with him how much you care! you care about him, your relationship, and have a deep desire to see it work out. 3. Sincerely take responsibility for what you recognize as your part in what is not working in your relationship, and what you would be honestly willing to work on if he were to choose in to giving it another try. If you need help with any of this, reach out to me.
Want to reconnect with her n redeem myself
I understand your desire to do this Bill. I also want you to know you can do this without her participation. Begin treating her now, the way you wish you would have, as well as others in your presence is a great way to begin.
My wife has checked out on me and doesn't want to try anymore
Hi Steve, this dose not mean she does not care about you...she has just run out of emotional gas by continuing to do all she knows how to do, without much progress.
I do not have any questions
Is it possible without my husband to participate
Hi Kim 🙂 Absolutey. It is very common for our clients to come to us where one partner participates before the other one joins in. Sometimes the other partner never joins in, but it is absolutely possible for one person to create change in a relationship.
Help
I want help
Tell me more
Can't make appt no code
I want to fix this marriage you remember 23 years help me
How can I stop this divorce and my husband wants I don't want it I want to fix the
Well we had an affair while we were both married to other mates she divorced and my wife passed away she pushed away from me to spend time with her girlfriend we got back together after a brief period of time but she went through my stuff and left again and has never forgot or trusted me anymore this has been going on for 4 years finally moved out and blamed me for breaking her spirit we have spoken but no signs of getting her back but I need to work on me
Shawn, it sounds like you have been through a lot. Your knowing of working on yourself would be a great next best step for you. I encourage you to book an initial session here to get started. https://stacibartley.com/work-with-me/
Need help on my marriage. I recently moved out and my husband told me that it was over. He keep telling me different things like it’s over, he’s over me, he’s moving on to newer things and there’s nothing to work on. Then he’ll mix it up with we can be friends, we can be friends and see we’re it takes up, he’s not making any promises, he’s tired, he’s done, he still loves me, he still in love with me but he’s tired of dealing with me. I’m so lost and hurting so bad! I didn’t realize I were still in love with him until I left. Sometimes it feels like he’s enjoying me hurting and at disarray. He keeps telling me that’s how he felt when I left. He still shows that he cares but it feels manipulative in a way because he’ll come back with that’s what he went through alone!
Hi Annissa, I can hear the pain in your comment and my heart truly goes out to you and your husband at this very difficult time. big hug! Its true, Emotional pain Sucks, however it is also a great teacher in helping us understand ourselves, our situation and our partners better. The reality is, we figure life and love out as we go, not before we get started, or get busy steering it in the direction we desire to go. It makes sense you would realize you are still in love with your husband after you moved out. I assure you, it was unlikely for you to realize this by maintaining the status quo of your relationship. I also encourage you to not take your husband's comments personally when he says..."now you understand what I was going through." There is relief for us as humans when we believe the way I was hurting can now be understood by another. Also, we all have our own progression through the pain and disappointments of love. Take it as validation that you are both hurting right now. There are many more things I desire to teach and share with you, however, it would take more than a simple reply to your comment. However, please let me close by saying there is hope here. I would suggest you explore if your husband would be willing to step into the experience of being friends. Friends who love and care about each other would be a really great place to come from when rebuilding your relationship once again. I encourage you to begin by setting aside the problems for a moment, and focus on getting together for an enjoyable activity, (hang out) and have a safe place and space to come home to. I also encourage you to get some help and support as you navigate this very difficult time. Schedule a call, and together let's truly explore your next best steps.
Need help with a recent break up. Need to communicate to the ex to convince him that we can be happy again
I encourage you to do three things. 1. stop trying to convince him. For most of us humans, how this plays out is we are begging, pleading, and over pleasing in an effort to get them to come back. This wont work well. very often, it pushes them further away. 2. confidently share with him how much you care! you care about him, your relationship, and have a deep desire to see it work out. 3. Sincerely take responsibility for what you recognize as your part in what is not working in your relationship, and what you would be honestly willing to work on if he were to choose in to giving it another try. If you need help with any of this, reach out to me.