#177: The Land of Maybe: Navigating Love on the Brink of Divorce


In the complex terrain of relationships, the space between holding on and letting go can often be the most challenging. This transitional space, what we refer to as the "Land of Maybe," is a purgatory of indecision and uncertainty that many couples find themselves in, especially when one partner has already filed for divorce. In episode #177 of our podcast, Love Shack Live, we explore the deep emotional currents of this uncertain territory and offer guidance for those trying to navigate these rough waters.

Understanding The Land of Maybe

The "Land of Maybe" is not just a phase but a state of being within a relationship where nothing is certain, and everything feels temporary. It's where one might live internally with doubts about whether to stay in or leave a relationship, often without these feelings being voiced. This unspoken state can create profound loneliness and a disconnect between partners, even when they are physically close.

The Emotional Rollercoaster of Relationship Uncertainty

Our episode delves into the emotional rollercoaster that couples experience when they are in the "Land of Maybe." Each day might bring a new reason to stay or go, making it a daily emotional negotiation that is exhausting and often unexpressed. The person who asked for space or initiated a breakup might be perceived as having moved on, but internally, they might also be struggling with uncertainty.

Navigating Through the Land of Maybe

To navigate through this daunting landscape, it is crucial to foster open communication. Partners need to share their internal struggles and uncertainties openly, which can help prevent the emotional distance that silence often brings. Sharing fears and desires openly can help both partners understand each other better and make more informed decisions about their future together or apart.

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The Importance of Letting Go and Self-Reflection

One of the most significant steps in dealing with the "Land of Maybe" is learning the art of letting go. Letting go doesn't necessarily mean giving up on the relationship but rather accepting the current state of things and working through emotions and possibilities without desperation. It involves a critical self-reflection on what each partner truly needs from the relationship and whether those needs can be met in the current circumstances.


  • The 'Land of Maybe' refers to a period of uncertainty in a relationship after one partner has filed for divorce or asked for space.
  • It is important to understand and explore the dynamics of the relationship and to engage in self-reflection and personal growth.
  • The 'Land of Maybe' can be a new beginning and an opportunity for reconciliation, but it is crucial to avoid panicking and making impulsive decisions.
  • Focus on figuring out yourself and becoming the best version of yourself, which can create a stronger bond and lead to a healthier relationship. Clear and honest communication is essential in relationships, especially during times of pain and discomfort.
  • Both partners deserve to have a voice and be heard and supported.
  • Laying emotional cards on the table and expressing needs and feelings openly is crucial for finding solutions and navigating to a different place in the relationship.
  • Having difficult conversations can be challenging, but seeking help and support can make the process easier.
  • Relationships can be transformed and reconciled if both partners are willing to do the work and have the necessary conversations.

Embracing Open Communication for Relationship Healing

Communicating openly and honestly about one's feelings, without fear of judgment, can pave the way for healing and understanding. This communication should be a two-way street, where both partners feel safe to express their deepest fears and hopes. Such dialogues can often lead to breakthroughs in relationships, where understanding each other's perspectives becomes the foundation for rebuilding trust.

Conclusion: A Journey of Growth and Understanding

In the realm of relationships, the most challenging times often lead to the most profound growth. Whether you're on the edge of separation or navigating a reconciliation, there's always a path forward that can lead to deeper understanding and renewed connections.

Resources mentioned in this episode:


  1. Love in Limbo Roadmap: A 30-day journey designed to offer clarity and support through separation or divorce. Learn more and join here.
  2. Separation Support Sessions: Immediate support to connect with others in similar situations, available at loveinlimbo.com.
  3. Better Love Club: Access unlimited resources, workshops, and a supportive community to deepen your relationship skills. Explore the club.
  4. For direct access to all resources, including private sessions with Staci, visit StaciBartley.com and navigate to the 'Work with Me' tab.

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