You can’t control what happens next in your relationship,
but you can learn how to stay steady, communicate safely,
and rebuild emotional trust while you’re in the in-between.
The Space Isn’t the End. It’s the Invitation.
You’ll get one short lesson each day for 30 days, practical tools that help you regulate before you reach for your phone, plus four live Monday night coaching calls inside the Better Love Club for questions, guidance, and support.
It’s the same step-by-step system we teach private clients to move from heartbreak to clarity, one day at a time.
- You’ve read all the advice, given them space, and done everything “right”… but nothing’s changing.
- You’re agonizing over every message, wondering if you’re saying too much, or not enough.
- They seem fine, while you’re falling apart in the grocery store parking lot, trying not to cry in front of strangers.
- You’re acting chill on the outside, but your heart races every time your phone buzzes.
You’re not crazy. You’re not broken.
You’re just missing the skills no one ever taught you, how to navigate love when it’s uncertain.
You’ve given them space. Now you’re the one disappearing.
You’ve done everything “right,” but nothing’s changing. You’re walking on eggshells, overthinking every word, and losing yourself in the silence. It’s time to find your way back to calm, and to you.
The truth no one tells you about "space."
Most people measure success by whether their partner comes back. But that puts your peace in someone else’s hands.
That shift sounds simple, but when your whole world feels uncertain, it can feel almost impossible.
You wake up every day trying not to text, trying not to replay every conversation, trying to “stay strong.”
But white-knuckling it isn’t healing.
The Love in Limbo 30-Day Roadmap teaches you how to stop surviving and start self-returning, how to come back to your center even when everything around you feels shaky.
It’s where you learn to hold onto yourself without collapsing, chasing, or ghosting your own needs.
You’re not crazy. You’re triggered.
TRUTH BOMB: THIS ISN’T YOU BEING DRAMATIC. IT’S BIOLOGY.
When someone you love pulls away, your brain doesn’t see “space.” It sees danger.
That wave of panic? It’s not weakness. It’s your nervous system doing its job, it just doesn’t know when to stop.
MRI studies show that romantic rejection activates the same part of your brain as physical pain. So when you can’t think straight, can’t sleep, or can’t stop checking your phone, that’s biology, not failure.
The Love in Limbo Roadmap helps you retrain that stress response so you can think clearly again, before the fear takes the wheel.
It’s not about controlling your emotions. It’s about calming your system so you can respond in ways that rebuild safety, not tension.
Your brain’s not broken. It’s protecting you.
Grounding practices and live support to calm your nervous system and help you stay steady through uncertainty.
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A safe space to connect with others who understand this season and offer real encouragement and perspective.
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Practical guidance for hard conversations that protect emotional safety and prevent the patterns that push them away.
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A guided framework to stop spirals, stay grounded, and reconnect with your sense of self, no matter what your partner does next.
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This is a guided reset for anyone stuck in the in-between, when you’re giving space, but it feels like losing yourself.
Inside, you’ll learn how to regulate your emotions, rebuild your sense of self, and communicate with steadiness instead of panic.
You don’t have to keep guessing what to say, when to reach out, or whether silence means it’s over.
This isn’t therapy, and it’s not a pep talk. It’s a step-by-step system that walks you out of emotional chaos and back into your own grounded power, one day at a time.
You’ll get structure, guidance, and real-time support from people who know this terrain, because they’ve lived it too.
The Love In Limbo: 30-Day Roadmap
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YOU’LL WALK AWAY WITH:
roadmap graduate
"I’ve learned how to focus on myself instead of constantly worrying about my partner.
For the first time, I feel like I have a clear path forward. The roadmap taught me how to prioritize my needs and regain my sense of self."
Calm the Chaos: Emotional Regulation
- Self-reflection journaling to untangle what just happened
- Your “Anchor List” of go-to tools for when panic flares
- The real reason heartbreak feels like danger, and how to soothe your system when it hits
Week one
Build Resilience: Regain Confidence
week 2
This week, we’ll help you spot the survival strategies you’ve outgrown (like over-explaining, waiting for crumbs, or pretending you’re fine), and replace them with emotional strength you can actually feel. You’ll get tools to handle uncertainty without defaulting to self-blame or anxious action.
- Emotional “weightlifting” to handle silence without collapse
- Tools like the “Emotion Flip Challenge” to turn spirals into insight
- Gentle unpacking of the deeper story this heartbreak is poking at
Communicate with Clarity: Lead with Self-Respect
week three
This week is where words meet wisdom. You’ll learn how to navigate hard conversations (or respectful silence) with confidence, without chasing, fixing, or explaining yourself into exhaustion. You’ll craft language that reflects your truth, not your triggers.
- Your “Emotional Safety Blueprint” for calm, conscious connection
- Learn the difference between reaching out and reaching for
- Practice boundaries that feel like self-love, not just self-protection
week four
Clarify What Comes Next: On Your Terms
By Week 4, the panic has softened and your vision is clearer. Whether you’re leaning toward reconnection, redefining the relationship, or simply pausing with more steadiness, this week is about mapping your next chapter with intention, not urgency.
- Create a “Love Lease” or separation agreement that supports clarity and care
- Craft a future vision rooted in your needs, not fear or pressure
- Use guided rituals and reflection prompts to move forward with courage, wherever you’re headed
What did you think of the community aspect?
Real People. Real Turning Points. Stories from the Roadmap.
What does it actually feel like to come out the other side?
These are the raw, unfiltered stories from people who’ve walked through the Love in Limbo: 30-Day Roadmap. Not experts. Not couples. Just humans, stuck, heart-wrecked, and unsure what to do next, who decided to do something different.
You’ll hear the panic. The hope. The relief of finally having a plan. And the clarity that came with each small, brave step forward.
🎧 If you’re wondering whether this will work for you, press play.
What made you decide to join the roadmap?
Did you hesitate to join the Roadmap? What changed?
What’s the Cost of Staying Stuck?
When your partner asks for space, your nervous system goes into survival mode. And in survival mode, we grasp for relief, anything that might help us feel less confused, less rejected, less powerless.
But here’s the truth:
You’ve probably already spent something, your peace, your time, your dignity, your money, trying to figure this out.
Let’s name a few of the most common paths:
🧊 The Frozen Wait
🧯 The Pressure Play
You could keep doom-scrolling relationship advice, reading Reddit threads, watching TikToks that hit too close to home. But all those tips? They contradict each other. And none of them give you a plan or tell you how to feel human again in the meantime.
🚧 The Search Spiral
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🚧 The Search Spiral
🧊 The Frozen Wait
🧯 The Pressure Play
🚧 The Search Spiral
You could try to “just talk to them,” send one more text, ask for closure, or beg for clarity. But when space is what they asked for, reaching out without skill doesn’t soothe, it usually sparks defensiveness and more silence.
🧯 The Pressure Play
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You could try to be the “cool” one. Say nothing. Do nothing. Wait it out. But silence doesn’t equal safety. And pretending you don’t care doesn’t help you reconnect. It just delays your healing.
🧊 The Frozen Wait
🧊 The Frozen Wait
🧯 The Pressure Play
🚧 The Search Spiral
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So What Does Work?
Instead of wasting your days guessing, panicking, and questioning your worth, what if you had a step-by-step roadmap to walk you through this space with grace?
The Love in Limbo: 30-Day Roadmap gives you structure, emotional strength practices, and real-time tools so you can stop reacting out of fear, and start moving from self-respect.
For less than what you’ll spend this month on coffee, takeout, or desperate self-soothing… you could actually start healing.
Because time won’t fix this. But new skills? They just might.
(Value: $497)
Daily guidance, reflective prompts, and proven tools to help you stay steady while navigating space, separation, or relationship crisis.
Each lesson unlocks one day at a time so you can absorb the material, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild at your own pace.
The 30-Day Roadmap Program
The Love In Limbo: 30-Day Roadmap
Transform Your Relationship Space Into a Pathway for Growth & Reconnection
This isn’t just a course. It’s a lifeline. A full-spectrum system of support to help you feel steadier, braver, and clearer, no matter what happens next.
$346
Here's what's included:
4 WEEKLY MONDAY NIGHT COACHING CALLS
Get live support and answers to your questions inside the Better Love Club every Monday night.
These open group calls help you connect with others in the program, get coaching directly from Staci and Tom, and feel less alone while you practice the skills in real time.
(Value: $897)
PRIVATE COMMUNITY OF BRAVE, BRILLIANT HUMANS
A confidential space where you’ll be supported by people who actually get it. Inside the Better Love Club, you’ll find encouragement, shared stories, and accountability from others walking the same path, no judgment, no pressure, just understanding.
(Value: $199)
Every Day You Wait, the Default Option Wins
The default option in relationships is silence, distance, pretending things aren’t as bad as they feel, until one day, it all breaks. Every day you wait to learn new skills, you’re not just gambling with your relationship, you’re paying in something:
• More sleepless nights replaying conversations in your head.
• More mornings with that pit in your stomach.
• More texts left hanging, more second-guessing, more emotional spirals.
• More disconnection that slowly hardens into resentment.
That’s why we’ve built Action-Reward Pricing into this round of the Roadmap. The earlier you choose yourself, the more you save, and the sooner you begin steadying yourself with tools that actually work.
(Payment plan available)
Whether you’re holding on, letting go, or just trying to get through the day without breaking down in the parking lot, you don’t have to do this alone anymore.
Join now and finally feel like you have a path forward.
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Ready to stop spiraling and start steadying?
🌀 Choose you. Choose peace.
Start your healing now, and meet us inside.
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No one can guarantee the outcome of your relationship. But we can promise that if you show up, you’ll leave stronger, steadier, and clearer than you started.
our progress promise:
This work isn’t about magic fixes or manipulation tactics. It’s about learning the skills that create emotional clarity, real connection, and inner steadiness, no matter what happens next.
Here’s our promise to you:
If you show up, you won’t stay stuck. If you take the 30 days seriously, listen to the lessons, practice the tools, and ask for support when you need it, you won’t leave the same.
Whether or not your partner comes back, you will come back to yourself.
That’s our Progress Promise.
This is the recipe for true transformation, with the tools, guidance, and community to help you move forward with clarity and courage.
— MJohnson
“I was completely blindsided. My rock had cracked, and I had no one to turn to… If it wasn’t for Staci, I likely would’ve lost this extra time for me to choose in and work on my relationship with my wife.”
I found out my wife wanted space during our first couples therapy session. Everything became about separation and divorce, not rebuilding. I felt alone. Then I found The Roadmap. Our status has shifted dramatically, we’ve gone from feeling like divorce was inevitable to having more space and time to work on us. Staci helped me understand how I showed up in my wife’s “movie reel,” and how to stay steady instead of acting out from fear.
“I couldn’t be more pleased with what I found underneath all my complex layers. The Roadmap gave me the tools to stay emotionally present, even in tough conversations.”
Before this, I didn’t know what kind of emotional “monster” I was going to uncover in myself. I was shut down, disconnected, and unsure how to fix things. This program helped me understand that the missing piece in my relationship was me, and gave me the roadmap to reconnect. Now, I don’t spiral or collapse in hard moments. I have tools, language, and perspective to stay grounded and actually repair.
— Mason
— amanda S.
“I’ve begun a journey of introspection, and rediscovered parts of myself I lost along the way.”
When my wife asked for separation, I was devastated. I had support, but no one really got what I was going through. The Roadmap gave me more than tools, it gave me a space to process, reflect, and grow. I’ve started taking accountability for what’s in my control, and I’m finally finding peace with what isn’t. If you’re on the fence, I can’t recommend it enough. I’m beyond thankful for the journey it started for me.
“It felt like I was standing on the edge of a cliff, unsure what the next step was. The Roadmap gave me the tools to move forward, and the confidence to believe I could.”
I was overwhelmed, anxious, and paralyzed by fear during the end of my marriage. The 30-Day Roadmap helped me reframe my perspective, strengthen my emotional foundation, and gave me community when I felt most alone. It didn’t just soothe me, it taught me how to rebuild my life. Now I feel empowered, supported, and capable of facing whatever comes next.
— marc
Real People. Real Results.
You don’t need to take our word for it. Here’s what happens when you finally stop spiraling, and start building the emotional skills that lead to clarity, peace, and connection.
Your story doesn’t have to end here. These aren’t exceptions. They’re examples of what’s possible when you stop guessing and start practicing the skills of love. If you’ve been waiting for a sign, this is it.
I’m Staci Bartley, and since 2013, I’ve helped over 1,500 people navigate the heartbreak, silence, and second-guessing that comes with relationship limbo. I’ve studied with the greats (Esther Perel, Dr. Tammy Nelson), taught emotional tools inside Fortune 500 companies, and co-host a weekly relationship podcast, but my real qualifications come from lived experience, not a clipboard and a couch. I’ve been divorced (twice), raised six kids on my own, and built a deeply connected marriage from the ground up.
I guide this work alongside my husband Tom and our daughter Brooke. We like to say we’re a family business, with all the mess, love, and midnight brainstorms that come with it. The three of us walk the Roadmap with you every step of the way, and no, we don’t do ivory tower advice. We do real-life skills that actually help.
I’m Staci Bartley, and since 2013, I’ve helped over 1,500 people navigate the heartbreak, silence, and second-guessing that comes with relationship limbo. I’ve studied with the greats (Esther Perel, Dr. Tammy Nelson), taught emotional tools inside Fortune 500 companies, and co-host a weekly relationship podcast, but my real qualifications come from lived experience, not a clipboard and a couch. I’ve been divorced (twice), raised six kids on my own, and built a deeply connected marriage from the ground up.
I guide this work alongside my husband Tom and our daughter Brooke. We like to say we’re a family business, with all the mess, love, and midnight brainstorms that come with it. The three of us walk the Roadmap with you every step of the way, and no, we don’t do ivory tower advice. We do real-life skills that actually help.
Healing Happens in Relationship
We don’t hand you a path and wish you luck. We walk it with you.
You’re looking for couples counseling or a program you can do with your partner. This one’s just for you.
You’re unwilling to look at your own patterns or contributions to the relationship.
You’re hoping someone else will change so you don’t have to.
You want a step-by-step plan to “win them back.” (This isn’t a game, and you’re not a puppet master.)
This probably isn’t for you if…
You’re not looking for a miracle. You’re ready to show up and do the emotional work, one breath, one day at a time.
You’ve tried therapy, podcasts, maybe even asked Google, but you still feel stuck in survival mode.
You’re craving structure, support, and a way forward… even if the ending isn’t clear yet.
You’re navigating a separation, breakup, or “I need space” conversation, and want tools that help you feel steady, not spun out.
You might be a great fit if…
How to Know If This Roadmap Is a Fit for You
We don’t believe in hard sells or cookie-cutter advice. This work is tender. It’s real. And it’s not for everyone.
If it’s for you, you’ll know.
You want to reconnect with your own clarity and calm, whether or not your person returns.
You’re mostly here to vent. We are all about creating space for real feelings, but growth is the goal.
If you’re ready to rebuild from the inside out, we’ll be here to walk it with you.
💠Thinking “Maybe Later”? Read This First.
Because hesitation is human, and clarity is powerful.
Do I actually need to be separated or taking space to gain value from the Roadmap?
No, you don’t need to be offically separated to find value in the Roadmap. Emotional space and separation can occur while living under the same roof, and this program is specifically designed for those experiencing or contemplating physical or emotional distance in their relationship. If you’re feeling disconnected, questioning your identity within your relationship, or have noticed that the dynamics have changed you in ways you didn’t anticipate, the Roadmap is an invaluable resource. It aims to help you reconnect with yourself and provides essential skills for navigating your current and future relationship challenges effectively.
Can my spouse/partner and I participate in the Roadmap at the same time?
No, some journeys are best undertaken alone. The Roadmap is designed as a personal journey back to oneself. For it to be truly effective, each participant needs to experience their own emotional space and safety. If you're looking to engage in relationship work together, The Better Love Club is an excellent alternative. Many couples choose to combine both resources: while one person engages in the Roadmap, the other joins The Better Love Club. Later, they switch roles, allowing both partners to benefit from individual and shared growth experiences.
What should I know before joining the Roadmap? Are there any prerequisites?
No, some journeys are best undertaken alone. The Roadmap is designed as a personal journey back to oneself. For it to be truly effective, each participant needs to experience their own emotional space and safety. If you're looking to engage in relationship work together, The Better Love Club is an excellent alternative. Many couples choose to combine both resources: while one person engages in the Roadmap, the other joins The Better Love Club. Later, they switch roles, allowing both partners to benefit from individual and shared growth experiences.
What are the reasons I shouldn't enroll in the Roadmap?
- Lack of Interest in Self-Exploration: The 30-day Roadmap is centered around deep self-exploration. It guides you through understanding who you are, how you connect with others, and the root of your relationship challenges. If you are not looking to engage in this level of introspection, this program may not align with your needs.
- Discomfort with Vulnerability: This journey requires a willingness to be vulnerable and to look deeply into your emotional and behavioral patterns. If opening up in this way is challenging for you, you might want to consider starting with the Better Love Club to ease into self-discovery.
- Contentment with Current Relationships: If you feel fully satisfied with your relationships and do not feel the need for personal or relational growth, the Roadmap may not provide additional value. This program is specifically designed for those who are seeking transformation and deeper connection.
- Expectation of a Passive Experience: The 30-day Roadmap is an interactive and experiential journey that demands active participation for maximum benefit. It is not suitable for those who prefer a more passive learning experience, such as simply watching videos without engaging in the exercises and community discussions. The more effort you invest, the greater the rewards.
How much time will I need to dedicate to the Roadmap each week?
How is the Roadmap different from other programs you offer?
The Love In Limbo 30-Day Roadmap is unique in offering daily access to Staci and her team for a full month, providing unparalleled support and guidance. This program is specifically tailored to help individuals navigate and heal from emotional distress in the most effective manner, offering tools and strategies unique to this intensive support system.
Will this help me get them back?
Maybe. But that’s not the promise. The Roadmap helps you come back to yourself. And from that grounded place, you’ll be able to see what’s next more clearly, whether it’s reconnection or release.
Will the Love In Limbo Roadmap help me change my partner?
The most empowering aspect of the Love in Limbo Roadmap is that it focuses on the one person you truly have the power to change: yourself. By deepening your understanding of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and by enhancing your relationship skills, you initiate personal changes that can profoundly impact your interactions and dynamics with others. This self-transformation is not only a gift to yourself but can also positively influence your partner and the overall health of your relationship.
- âś” A day-by-day reset to help you regulate your emotions and stay grounded, without needing your partner to show up first
- âś” Scripts, meditations, and communication tools that help you speak your truth (without spiraling)
- ✔ A private, off-social community that actually gets what you’re going through
- ✔ Group coaching and mentor support from people who’ve been in the trenches and walked through the fire
- âś” A clear, calm path out of survival mode, so you can feel proud of how you handled this, no matter how it ends
Here’s what you’re saying yes to:
Now you’re stuck in limbo, flooded with what-ifs and spinning in silence that no one warned you would feel this loud.
- You could keep holding your breath.
- You could keep second-guessing every move.
- You could keep googling “how to fix your relationship when they say they need space” and hoping a TikTok saves the day.
Or you could stop spiraling and start rebuilding.
Because here’s the truth:
You don’t need to “win them back.” You need to find your way back to you, with calm, clarity, and tools that actually work in real life, not just in theory.
That’s what the Love in Limbo: 30-Day Roadmap gives you.
You’re Not Just Buying a Program.
You’re Choosing a Path Back to Yourself.
Let’s Recap:
Choose peace. Choose progress. Choose you.
Your Investment: $346