You’ve tried harder. You’ve tried therapy. You’ve tried not crying in the car.
Here’s what you haven’t tried:
🔸 Emotional push-ups that make reconnection possible
🔸 Learning the skills love actually requires
🔸 Doing it alongside someone who’s been there
You’re not too late. You’re just getting started. Welcome.
You’ve tried harder. You’ve tried therapy. And you're still waiting for something to finally work.
Here’s what you haven’t tried:
🔸 Emotional push-ups that make reconnection possible
🔸 Learning the skills love actually requires
🔸 Doing it alongside someone who’s been there
You’re not too late. You’re just getting started.
Welcome.
This isn’t your average “just talk about your feelings” zone.
No leather couches.
No BS.
No finger-pointing.
Just real tools, real talk, and a roadmap for doing love differently.
Are you still trying to save your relationship with willpower and podcasts?
about us
There’s a better way, and it starts with learning what no one ever taught you: real relationship skills.
We’re taught how to avoid conflict—not how to return from it. That’s what we do here.
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Practice beats perfection. We build emotional strength in reps, not magic fixes.
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We start where you are. Even if you’re unsure, angry, or half out the door.
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This isn’t therapy.
It’s mentorship with real tools and no judgment.
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Let’s learn the tools real love requires.
I’m Staci Bartley, and since 2013, I’ve mentored over 1,500 people through the messy middle of love. I host a relationship podcast called Love Shack Live, have studied with Esther Perel, Dr. Tammy Nelson, and Lisa Ferenza, and have taught emotional tools to Fortune 500 companies. But the real reason people trust me? Because I’ve lived what I teach. From teen mom to twice-divorced to single mom of six, I’ve rebuilt love from the ground up, and I’ve been in a strong, connected marriage with my husband Tom since 2012. This isn’t theory. It’s the kind of practice that creates real change.
Relationship skills, not relationship theory.
LET’S REWRITE YOUR RELATIONSHIP STORY—FOR REAL THIS TIME.
Read that again.
"We decided to seek help for our relationship because, like many couples, we found ourselves feeling disconnected despite loving each other deeply. Life, stress, and old communication patterns had slowly started to build a wall between us. We knew we needed a reset, a way to reconnect and truly understand each other again. Before joining the Better Love Club, we were hesitant about opening up in a structured relationship program. Would it be too clinical? Would we feel judged? Could this really work for us? But from the very beginning, Staci created a space that felt safe, compassionate, and surprisingly fun. The biggest change since working with Staci has been the shift in how we see each other. We've gained a deeper understanding of the dynamics at play in our relationship and discovered tools we didn’t even know we were missing."
-Ed koop
At the core of every relationship is a shared humanity, messy, beautiful, and flawed. We’re all just doing our best to navigate connection, yet we often justify our own actions while judging others for the same ones. That double standard creates distance, not closeness. When we start to see ourselves and our partners as equally human, we stop the blame game. We soften. We make space for growth. This principle reminds us that love isn’t about being perfect, it’s about practicing compassion, again and again.
01 | The Basics: Foundations of Love
02 | Speaking: The Art of Expression
Most of us think we’re listening, but we’re really just waiting to talk. Real listening asks more of us. It requires emotional self-awareness, generosity, and a willingness to quiet our own story long enough to hear someone else’s. Listening is one of the most loving things you can do for another person. And it starts with understanding your own inner noise, so you can stop interrupting, correcting, or competing for the mic. Listening is what turns conversation into connection.
03 | Listening: The Power of Presence
Emotions aren’t the enemy, but ignoring them, stuffing them down, or dumping them on others? That’s when the damage happens. Emotional regulation is the bridge between what we feel and how we show up. It’s the pause that prevents regret. The skill that says: “Yes, I’m upset, and I still get to choose how I respond.” When we regulate our inner world, we build the kind of safety in relationships that lasts. This isn’t about suppression. It’s about sovereignty.
04 | Emotional Regulation: Mastering Your Inner World
Romance isn’t something you stumble into, it’s something you create, over and over again. Not with grand gestures, but with everyday intention. A glance. A touch. A conversation you’re brave enough to have. Lasting love isn’t built in the absence of conflict, it’s built in the return after it. These are the moments where intimacy is born: when you stay present, stay curious, and keep showing up. Love, after all, is a skill. And we get better at what we practice.
05 | Romantic Relationships: Practiced, Not Perfected
From teen mom to single mother of six. From two divorces to a deeply connected marriage. From heartbreak to healing, Staci has walked the messy road and come back with a map. Her work is rooted in personal experience, rigorous training, and an unshakable belief that relationship skills can be taught, learned, and mastered.
Staci’s style is equal parts truth-teller and rebel aunt. She’s direct, loving, and wildly disarming. Whether she’s teaching in a boardroom, speaking on a podcast, or coaching a couple in crisis, her presence makes space for the hard stuff, and helps people find their way through it.
Because real love isn’t built on wishful thinking. It’s built on skills.
And that’s what Staci is here to teach.
Staci Bartley isn’t your average relationship expert. She’s not here to fix you, placate you, or offer surface-level soundbites. She’s here to help you build the emotional skills that real love actually requires, no fluff, no fairytales, and definitely no finger-pointing.
A nationally recognized mentor, speaker, podcast host, and creator of the Better Love Club, Staci has spent the last 15+ years teaching individuals, couples, and leaders how to navigate conflict, connection, and communication with clarity and courage.
She’s the voice people turn to when they’re stuck between staying or going… when they’ve tried therapy, read the books, and still feel like they’re missing something. She’s coached Fortune 500 execs, co-hosted the Love Shack Live podcast, created wellness programs for healthcare teams, and developed a suite of practical tools, like The LOOP™, Communication Sandwich™, and Emotional Check-In Frameworks, that actually help people change how they show up in love.
But her greatest qualification? She’s lived it.
A Fresh, Fearless Voice in Modern Love
Meet Staci Bartley
You're not broken. You're just missing skills.
Cooking shows. While other kids were watching cartoons, she was glued to the Food Network—learning knife skills from Emeril and flavor layering from Ina. By the time she moved out, she knew her way around a kitchen and cooked by instinct. (Still does.)
What did Brooke watch instead of cartoons as a kid?
Brooke is the creative and technical force behind the Better Love Club experience. As our in-house designer, podcast producer, and digital operations lead, she’s the one who ensures everything you see, hear, and interact with reflects our mission with clarity and care. In 2014, Brooke left a career as a paralegal to join the family business, and has since become integral to the team. From building our website to troubleshooting tech, designing our visuals to replying to your support emails, she brings both precision and heart to every corner of the business. Around here, she’s affectionately known as “the everything girl.”
Brooke Bartley
Director of Creative & Client Experience
He has a mind like a map—whether it’s the house, the car, or the garage, he knows exactly where everything lives. Lost charger? Misplaced key? Random bolt from 2017? Ask Tom. (And yes, he proudly passed this uncanny talent on to Brooke.)
What’s Tom’s secret superpower?
Staci’s husband, co-founder, and podcast co-host, he brings thoughtful structure and behind-the-scenes strength to everything we do. With more than 25 years of experience as a real estate appraiser, Tom has a remarkable ability to assess the details, steady the course, and keep both the business and the team grounded. He’s the first to respond to a client in need, the last to leave a task unfinished, and always the one to bring calm clarity in the midst of chaos. Whether he’s supporting our community, setting up an event, or keeping our systems running smoothly, Tom makes sure nothing slips through the cracks.
Tom Bartley
Co-Founder & Director of Operations
Meet the Family Behind the Work
A small (but mighty) team, powered by love and late-night brainstorms.
This isn’t a corporation with cubicles and call scripts. It’s a real family business built around a kitchen table, and a shared mission to help people become better at love. What began as Staci Bartley’s personal passion has grown into a collaborative trio: Staci, her husband Tom, and her stepdaughter Brooke. Together, we bring the head, heart, and hands to every part of this work, from private sessions and podcast episodes to tech support and heartfelt check-ins. It’s not just what we do. It’s how we live, love, and show up, for each other, and for you.
Staci Unfiltered: Get to Know Me, Quiz-Style
1. What's my dream travel destination?
A. Paris
B. Bali - in a hut over the ocean
c. Santorini
2. What do I collect?
A. Seashells
B. shoes
c. Houseplants
D. Self help books
3. Favorite song?
4. Favorite drink?
A. Lemonade
B. Breve latte
c. champagne
D. turmeric latte
5. Dream dinner guests?
A. Dolly parton
B. brene Brown
c. My whole family around 1 table
D. The cast of ted lasso
6. Most used emoji?
A) 🥰
B) 🤔
C) 🥲
D) 💃
7. What's my ideal Sunday activity?
A. Spa day
B. farmer's market & afternoon hike
c. binge watching shows
D. lunch at the winery
8. What is my superpower in relationships?
Golden by Jill Scott
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