It’s not your fault—no one teaches you how to navigate space without spiraling.
Giving someone space shouldn’t mean losing yourself in the process.
You’re doing everything you can to respect their request.
You’re not blowing up their phone. You’re keeping your cool.
You’re trying to trust that time apart will help.
But deep down, you know space alone doesn’t fix a thing.
Not without communication.
Not without clarity.
Not without a plan.
It’s not your fault, no one teaches you how to navigate space without spiraling.
Giving someone space shouldn’t mean losing yourself in the process.
You’re doing everything you can to respect their request.
You’re not blowing up their phone. You’re keeping your cool.
You’re trying to trust that time apart will help.
But deep down, you know space alone doesn’t fix a thing.
Not without communication.
Not without clarity.
Not without a plan.
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You’re trying to stay calm. But you’re running out of strength.
This is for…
But the silence is messing with your head, and your heart.
You’re doing everything you can to give them the space they asked for…
You’re stuck in emotional limbo. Overthinking every text. Wondering if you should reach out or stay quiet. Hoping you don’t ruin things just by saying the wrong thing. This Playbook is your lifeline: clear guidance for what to say, when to say it, and how to calm the panic long enough to protect your connection, and your sanity.
💡 It’s like emotional CPR for the version of you who’s trying to hold it all together.
Giving more space, staying silent, or trying to “manifest a text” isn’t going to magically fix this. No matter what your group chat says. Or that TikTok therapist who told you to act “unbothered.”
Spoiler alert:
Because this isn’t just about getting them back.
It’s about getting you back.
Here’s the truth:
You can’t logic your way out of panic. You can’t reconnect by guessing.
And you definitely can’t rebuild trust by pretending you don’t care.
What you need isn’t another day of overthinking in silence.
You need tools. Support. A plan.
- Scripts and sentence-starters that help you communicate clearly, without chasing, begging, or exploding
- A step-by-step process to get out of survival mode, so you can show up steady and strong
- A way to protect your emotional energy *without* breaking the “space” agreement (yes, it’s possible)
- And most of all… the clarity to know what you actually want from this relationship, once the fog lifts
Couples who learn emotional regulation tools are 4x more likely to reconnect after conflict or separation.
(Source: gottman institute, 2019)
Use grounding tools you can rely on when you’re spiraling solo.
Stabilize yourself, even if your partner’s gone quiet.
Take the quiz to name your survival mode, and learn how to shift it.
Spot your communication pattern under stress.
Get word-for-word scripts and sentence-starters that stop the spiral.
Know what to say (and what to skip) when emotions run high.
What do you actually get in the Playbook + Quiz, you’re asking?
YOUR PANIC HAS A PURPOSE.
BUT NOW IT’S TIME TO SHIFT
FROM REACTING TO RESPONDING.
Inside this mini toolkit, you’ll find the exact tools we use with private clients when communication breaks down and the panic sets in. It’s designed to give you clarity when your head is spinning, structure when you don’t know what to say, and stability when you feel like you’re losing control.
No fluff. No guesswork. Just real-deal support, available on demand, in your own time.
👇 Here’s what’s included:
…so you can stop guessing, stop spiraling, and start shifting how you show up during space and separation.
Let’s break down exactly what’s inside:
the space & separation communication playbook & quiz
Your insider look at
- Word-for-word scripts and sentence-starters that de-escalate tension
- A breakdown of what not to say when emotions are high
- Simple communication tools (like the “Window of Neutrality”) to help you respond instead of react
The playbook
- Spot whether you’re a Controller, Collapser, or Drifter
- Get personalized insight based on your answers
- Learn one shift to practice right away
The Self-Assessment Quiz
- Learn how to “Catch Yourself” in the moment, before you spiral
- Use the Pause + Breathe practice to regulate your emotions
- Build daily rituals that anchor you when everything feels uncertain
STABILIZATION TOOLS & RITUALS
All for $9.
• The Playbook: Grounding tools, simple scripts, and space to reflect
• The Quiz: Pinpoint your communication pattern and learn how to shift it
• Personalized insights with clear next steps to help you stay calm and connected
What you will receive:
You could keep spiraling on Google…
…reading conflicting advice, second-guessing your every text, and trying to DIY your way through the pain.
But that’s the slow, shaky, very exhausting way.
Or you could get a structured, skill-based reset for $9, designed to calm your nervous system and clear up your communication chaos.
I priced it this low on purpose. Because when you’re in relationship limbo, the last thing you need is another big decision.
You just need something that actually helps.
The investment
Less than a fast-casual lunch. And way more nourishing.
more about the team
Relationship Expert. Emotional Skill Builder. Professional Truth-Teller.
Hi, I'm Staci Bartley
Since 2013, I’ve mentored more than 1,500 people through the messy middle of love. I’ve walked this road myself, as a teen mom, a single mother of six, and someone who’s been divorced twice. Today, I’m in a strong, connected marriage with my partner Tom, and together with my daughter Brooke, we’ve built the Better Love Club to help others find clarity, confidence, and connection.
You’re not broken. And your relationship probably isn’t either. You’re just missing a few key skills.
Most of us were taught how to avoid conflict, not how to come back from it. We were told to try harder or talk it out, but never shown what that actually looks like. That’s where I come in. I teach real tools that help you stop spiraling and start showing up differently in love.
No fluff. No fairytales. Just practical support for real life.
Love isn’t magic. It’s a method. And you can learn it.
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