Are you stuck in that brutal in-between where you’re asking yourself: Should I stay or should I go? Some days feel warm enough to keep trying… and other days feel so lonely you can’t believe you’re still in the same house.
Welcome to the Land of Maybe.
In this special rebroadcast we break down why this “yes, no, maybe so” season is one of the most emotionally exhausting places a relationship can live. Not because you don’t care. Not because you haven’t tried. But because uncertainty burns through your emotional fuel faster than almost anything.
You’ll learn how to recognize when you’re in the Land of Maybe, why blame keeps you stuck, and what to do instead so you can stop spinning and start moving forward with clarity. If you’re navigating space or separation right now, this episode is especially for you. Space can be a reset… or a slow exit. What you do next matters.
And one more thing: couples wait an average of six years to get help. If you’re already years into the maybe, the time is now.
In This Episode, We Cover
- What the “Land of Maybe” actually is (and why so many couples live there for years)
- The hidden cost of uncertainty: emotional burnout, health strain, and family fallout
- Why “a little problem now” becomes “a big problem later” when it’s minimized
- How “narcissism” can get mis-labeled when fear and emotional shutdown are the real issue
- The co-creation principle: why blame feels satisfying, but keeps you trapped
- How to “get yourself at the table” instead of becoming a version of you that isn’t true
- Why love doesn’t change behavior… practice does
A Script You Can Borrow (When You’re Ready to Ask for Support)
“Hey… I know we’ve been struggling, and I know I’m unhappy. You probably are too.
But I want you to know I really care about us. I care about you.
I want this to work. Would you be willing to get some help and support with me?
I’m willing to do my part. Would you be willing to do yours?”
Follow the Fun Challenge
This week, choose one intentional “laughter moment” together:
- Share relationship jokes over dinner
- Go to a local comedy club
- Do an at-home comedy night with your favorite stand-up
- Watch a movie you know makes you both laugh
- Or get brave and try an improv class (yes, really)
Because the shortest distance between two people is often laughter.
Ready for Clarity?
If you’re tired of living in the emotional whiplash of yes / no / maybe so, Tom is offering a free Clarity Call to help you slow down, get grounded, and figure out your next best steps.
Book here: stacibartley.com/apply
