#203: Surviving Stressful Times as a Couple—What to Do When the World Feels Divided
This week has felt intense for many of us. Recent events, like the U.S. elections, have stirred up powerful emotions—relief and hope for some, deep concern and despair for others. When the world feels this divided, it’s no surprise that tension seeps into our closest relationships. Even the smallest exchanges can feel fraught with weight.
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Understanding Stress and Relationships
The recent U.S. elections have highlighted how high-stress events can activate our fight-or-flight responses, making us more reactionary toward perceived threats or missteps, especially from those closest to us. Things that seem trivial, like a dirty dish in the sink or a misplaced question, can erupt into something larger when stress and fear loom over us.
It’s crucial to recognize these outside stressors and how they affect our relationships. When one partner feels like they’re at the bottom of the barrel, while the other gleefully dances around, tension can rise. Our conversation today focuses on understanding these outside stressors and finding practical tools to bridge divides, even when the world feels anything but steady.
Building Trust with Yourself and Others
One of the most important steps in navigating external stress is building trust within ourselves. Trust in yourself allows you to step away from feeling threatened by differing perspectives. It helps you remain steady, preventing the confusion that can lead to internal division.
Building trust within yourself doesn’t just mean being consistent in your words and actions but involves forming a deep understanding of your own thoughts and feelings. This self-awareness forms the bedrock for your ability to listen to and understand other perspectives without feeling threatened.
When we establish trust within ourselves, we become capable of understanding others without the need to convince or coerce them into our way of thinking. This crucial skill is often lacking but is vital to counter divisive tendencies both in our homes and our communities.
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Nurturing Connection Amid Differences
Recent political events showed us that trying to change each other’s minds without understanding can lead to division rather than unity. This principle applies to personal relationships as well. Rather than trying to align your partner’s thinking with yours, focus on understanding and respecting each other’s perspectives.
Encourage empathy and patience, allowing space for connections to form regardless of differences. These connections can transform divisive rhetoric into shared understanding, helping navigate conflicts and fostering a supportive environment for growth and collaboration.
Letting Go of What You Can’t Control
Letting go of uncontrollable aspects of life can enhance flexibility and joy. My mother showcased resilience by finding joy in challenging circumstances, teaching me the power of creating good, regardless of what life throws our way.
In times of uncertainty, focus on what you can control—like maintaining peace and joy within your own home. Teach these values to young children to foster a generation of open-minded, loving individuals.
Keeping the Dream Alive
In moments of frustration or disappointment, don’t lose sight of your dreams. Use empathy and simple gestures to nurture relationships. Whether through a kind word, a shared activity, or a gentle touch, these actions can counter high stress and bring joy even in polar opposite emotions.
Brooke shared a powerful quote at the end of this latest episode, a reminder of the resilience we carry within us:
“People speak of hope as if it is this delicate, ephemeral thing made of whispers and spider’s webs. It’s not. Hope has dirt on her face, blood on her knuckles, the grit of the cobblestones in her hair, and just spat out a tooth as she rises for another go.” – Matthew, @CrowsFault
This imagery of hope as gritty, determined, and unbreakable is what we need to hold on to when the outside world feels chaotic. Trust and connection start within us and ripple outward, harmonizing our internal landscape with the world around us. Embrace the potential to create and connect beyond perceived differences, nurturing a unified humanity.
As we navigate these challenging times together, remember you have the power to redefine your relationships and build the love and unity we all desire. Let these insights guide you to a place of strength and steadiness, where shared understanding becomes the foundation for resilience and growth.
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